A wedding is maybe one of the exciting events in our life. Newly engaged couples together with their family and friends are for sure waiting for that big day to arrive. But, with all this excitement and dreaming of a perfect wedding day, for sure you have a lot in mind that you are asking yourself some questions. Can you mention some of these?
Well, as your professional photographer, I’ve talked and met many brides and grooms who felt overwhelmed with thinking about their wedding plans. I’ve encountered so many questions, starting from the cost of the wedding photo package up to the most unnecessary questions. But for now, let’s focus on these four questions, which are the most important for the engaged couple. Then, we will provide you an answer that we hope will benefit our readers and, most significantly, our couples.
#1 HOW MUCH MONEY DO WE WANT TO SPEND? VS. HOW MUCH CAN WE SPEND?
In planning a wedding, budget always comes first to discuss. If you read our previous blogs or follow our Instagram posts, budget or funds is critical for a wedding. A couple would have asked their partner how much they would want to spend for their wedding. While for others, how much is the too much budget they can spend. Then, ask yourself if you can stick with that budget. Of course, a small budget implies a small guests list. At a wedding, you should remember, each guest’s head costs money.
According to The Knot’s 2020 Real Weddings Study, the average cost of a wedding in 2020 was $19,000, including the ceremony and reception. This figure is lower than in recent years because of the Covid19 pandemic. And so, how would you imagine spending your savings on your wedding?
On a lighter note, if the couple desires a large celebration, they can adjust some of the wedding’s other details. For example, if you have graphic design skills, you may make DIY wedding invites or offer DIY keepsakes for your guests. Instead of having a complete package from the vendor, it can save you money.
#2 HOW MANY GUESTS DO WE WANT TO INVITE? VS. WITHOUT WHOM COULD WE NOT IMAGINE GETTING MARRIED?
What is the maximum number of people you wish to invite to your wedding? Each guest, as noted in #1, costs a specific amount of money. Therefore, it is always a smart move to list down all your guests’ names and then identify all those necessary individuals to be there on your wedding day. Afterward, ask yourself the final guest’s list and discuss it with your future spouse. Next, talk about whom you need to invite and whom you can imagine not to invite.
Some people are connected with us right now but not necessarily means we need to invite them all. For example, in one of my blogs and Instagram posts, I’ve mentioned that those who invited you to their wedding don’t necessarily mean you need to ask them to your wedding just to give back the favors. Also, not because you spend every day with your colleagues doesn’t mean you must invite them. There are ways to celebrate your wedding even if you don’t invite them into your wedding day.
#3 WHAT VENDORS DO WE NEED TO CONTACT FOR OUR WEDDING? VS. WHAT ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS TO INCLUDE IN OUR WEDDING?
Once you and your partner have a good understanding of each other’s values and goals, it’s time to distinguish between wants and needs. Many of the wedding’s details will include choices that emphasize this distinction. As you go along with all the planning, you may find yourself wanting extra details or accent for your wedding, but do you think it is necessary to have it?
Vendors are engaged couple’s closest buddies during this time. It is good to have significant vendors to help you with all the wedding preparations. But, you must have to prioritize which one is necessary. For example, is it required to have a band, or do you know someone who could perform music from their laptop? Is it alright for you to entrust all of your priceless photographs to someone who owns a cutting-edge smartphone or hire a professional photographer who will provide you lifetime images?
These questions will assist the couple in determining which vendor to choose and the essential elements to include in their wedding day. Determine all of the advantages and disadvantages of a wedding to have a beautiful and memorable wedding day.
#4 WHAT DO WE WANT OUR DAY TO LOOK LIKE? VS. WHAT DO WE WISH TO FEEL FOR OUR DAY?
There are certain things and significant moments that each bride focuses on her wedding day. These can be the cake, the wedding gown, the venue, or even vows. But, on your wedding day, what is truly the most significant thing? What are the most important things to remember and reflect on after the big day has passed, even if it’s been years?
Many would agree that the foundation of your wedding is your vision, which means it is the overall feel of your wedding. Consider how you want your guests to feel and what you want them to remember about your event. Also, most importantly, consider how YOU want to feel on that particular day!
Although these two can is achievable simultaneously, whatever happens, the most crucial thing to remember is that you are now officially spending the rest of your life with the person you love. You’ve tied the knot!
Many people will come and leave, asking questions, requesting photographs, enthusiastic hugs, and many other things on your wedding day. While all of these further details are necessary for the day to run correctly and leave your guests with fond memories, it’s also crucial to set aside some time for just you and your future husband.
Finally, while these questions are essential, the most crucial thing is to appreciate, cherish, and create memorable moments that you and your spouse will remember for the rest of your lives.
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